It’s Friday and time for Five Minute Friday again. Kate Motaung has prompted us with the word “Truth.” I could go so many ways with this, but right now there is only one I want to talk about. The Truth of who I am. I’ve written briefly on shame for the past week or so. […]
I feel like a fake! I’m a terrible mom!
Neil Armstrong felt like a fake. Imagine. While in a room full of artists and scientists, musicians and discoverers, he said to Neil Gaiman: “I just look at all these people, and I think, what the heck am I doing here? They’ve made amazing things. I just went where I was sent.” And I said, “Yes. But […]
How to Defeat Shame {An encouraging word...
Shame is a liar. It looks at who we are, the deep parts of us, and identifies us as flawed. Broken. Unworthy. Unlovable. In my worst days, I have believed the lies of shame. I have believed I have nothing to offer, can do nothing right, will never become anything and should not even bother. […]
What Postpartum Depression Looks Like {S...
While preparing for the external version of our breach son, a delivery nurse went through all the check-in procedures. While going through my medical history, I answered yes to a history of depression. She looked up from the computer into my eyes, her forehead creased with worry. I assured her I knew what depression looked […]
How I am rising above shame (and the win...
The past week was full. Full of tears, grief, sorrow, and pain. Full of joy, laughter, hope, and excitement. Full of new people, new friends. Abundant. Overflowing. At times I was overwhelmed, felt behind, wanted to crawl in a hole to sleep, because it was almost too much for this girl who gets over-stimulated. And […]
Why Sympathy Spurs Shame, but Empathy Em...
Day 28 of 31 Days of Connecting When Jack was 3 or 4 months old, we went to a family friend’s house for lunch. Not knowing them well, I mostly kept to myself, hiding myself in Jack’s needs. When he finally went down for a nap, I had no choice but to engage in conversation with […]